I am going out on a limb here, but I think that all of us have a little conversation going on in our head. I hear others muttering to themselves – guessing they are talking to themselves. I know I have a lot of self-talk going on in my head. I am thinking these conversations with ourselves can be helpful or they can be harmful, encouraging or discouraging, positive or negative. Here’s a question we can ask ourselves that can be either positive or negative: Who do you think you are? How did you read that question? Did you read it with an accusatory tone or a curious tone? In our self-talk, are we condemning ourselves or encouraging ourselves?
Working at The River Center, it seems appropriate to talk about going with the flow. Who hasn’t thrown a stick into the river or stream to watch it make its way downstream? It catches on a rock until a current sends it on its way again, spinning in circles, stopping for a moment in a quiet spot, before continuing down the stream and around the corner. Sometimes it feels like we are a stick in the current, spinning, stopping, speeding along, caught up in the river’s flow.
Sometimes memories are built during those times when you just have to go with the flow.
Almost five years ago, I packed up my two small children and my Pennsylvania home of a decade, and trekked up to start a new life in Peterborough, New Hampshire. A writer and educator originally from New Jersey, never having lived in New England, I felt like a fish out of water, and I knew not a soul in town. Like any major transition, this experience was wrought with excitement but also anxiety, fear, and grief. Now, five years later, I have a wonderful community of neighbors, co-workers, and friends.
Schools are out for the summer. Parents and caregivers are putting together plans for the kids. There are vacations, summer camps, some have older kids lined up to watch the younger children, visits with relatives, and some are still trying to figure it out. Summer vacation is both wonderful and challenging if you are the parent or caregiver for young children.
Despite your best laid plans there remains the age-old issue of how to deal with straight-up boredom. Which isn’t the worst thing- more on that later.
Mother’s Day having just passed, I have been thinking about my mother. She was the quintessential post World War II housewife and mother. Here are lessons I learned from my mother: Your dinner plate should be color balanced. Oh my if you served macaroni and cheese with corn and summer squash (yellow). Or a white fish with parsnips and mashed potatoes (white). If she inadvertently served a one palette plate, she would chide herself and let us know that just wasn’t right.
Volunteers are the secret sauce of the nonprofit world. Volunteers do so many things that are essential to the functioning of our nonprofits. Let’s look at the volunteer Board of Trustees. They give of their time, their skills, their wisdom. The Board is responsible for ensuring that the nonprofit is fulfilling the mission of the organization and is fiscally sound. The River Center’s Board is comprised of individuals who are excited about the mission of The River Center which is, “The River Center provides parent education, family support and community connections in a welcoming environment to strengthen individuals and families in the Eastern Monadnock Region.”
This month I am thinking about being strong. When I was in my twenties, I didn’t really think about it. I could sit at a desk all week and then hike Mt. Katahdin on Saturday. I slept well that night, but my muscles could adjust without too much complaint. When I was pregnant with our first baby I was hoping the doctor would agree with me that helping Dave haul in the firewood was too heavy for me. The doctor thought it would be great exercise for me- sigh. When I was in my thirties, I didn’t really think much about taking a walk with a baby in the backpack, another in the stroller and cajoling the oldest to keep up with me.
Random Acts of Kindness Day was last Friday. Somebody decided it would be a good thing to celebrate such a day. Why? Being curious, I did some research. I found out there is the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation with a mission to make kindness the norm. Here is what they say on their website: “We are rooted in the belief that all people can connect through kindness and that kindness can be taught.”
I went for a walk along Brush Brook recently. It was refreshing to my soul. I love the outdoors in any weather, any temperature, any season. There seems to be something essential to my wellbeing to live within the rhythms of four distinct seasons. I am excited about a program at The River Center called Mini Explorers which fully embraces our four seasons. This program is geared toward parents and caregivers with their young children and they meet outdoors. Every week, all year long. And they explore together this beautiful region we call home.
What are your family traditions for this time of year? Our families develop traditional ways of decorating, giving, and eating. Part of the joy of the season is creating traditions within our families and sharing them with others. Family traditions make me think about a parenting class we did at The River Center called Guiding Good Choices. The course talked about defining your family values. It is helpful to think about what your family values are talk about them with your children. Every family has it’s own way of doing life.